Every day choosing yourself is termed as being selfish. But the truth be told, you can’t save everyone, not just that you can’t save even a few people if you don’t choose yourself. Choose to be selfish and work on yourself. Choose what you do and for my blogger blogging friends, I have something for you here. work on what you want to work on; its all part of choosing yourself. Choosing yourself means taking care of yourself so you can give the best to others. We talk of self- love but most people don’t even know where to begin. If choosing yourself if selfishness so be it; but that’s the only way you are going to find genuine selflessness. Here is how;


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Oprah Winfrey once said, she had to take responsibility for other people`s energy because they wouldn’t do that, so she decided to choose who to share her energy with (I’m rephrasing here).  Women are taught to be polite and we overdo it. So even when someone is draining their energy, they would stick around because they sympathize and don’t want to hurt other people`s feelings and end up hurting themselves in the long run. You can’t give your best if you are not selfish with your energy. We all know how exhausting it can be to share your energy with negative people or even participate in things that don’t nourish you as a person.

Guard your energy so that you can be the best version of you around people who actually need that positivity or even your family. That’s the only way you can give them your best. 


Make it a habit to engage in self-love habits every day. Take time off and be by yourself without being apologetic for it. Say no when you have to and yes when you mean it. Every day do something for you; make it a habit. A happy you equal to happy people around you; genuine support to others and you’ll be your best even when you are being a service to others. Its almost impossible to be a genuine person and appreciate others well, when you don’t even appreciate yourself. Be selfish with your me-time.  That’s the time you rejuvenate and come out being vibrant and ready to conquer the world.

It’s a modern world, where a lot has been defined for women. Starting with beauty and much more. It takes self-love to embrace yourself and not fall for the expectations set by people who don’t even know you. when I say self-love; I mean genuine self-love without apology.


Doesn’t matter how high you set your standards for you; keep them. Standards help filter a lot of things that are not up to standard. Whether its relationships, friendships or even jobs, you know why you set those standards at that level.  You know you deserve that and that’s why you set them. Why compromise?

Compromising sometimes means doing things halfheartedly. That’s not the way to live life. Giving it your best is the way to live life; in everything. Its life-changing to live like that. Sometimes when we compromise we have so much to lose than win. We can’t help but feel like it’s a waste of time especially if there is no long-term plan to make the situation better. We waste energy on it just for the sake. On the other hand, if you don’t compromise and settle for what your standards dictate; you are prone to giving it your best.

There are things that need compromising but at the end of the day; is it worth it? if it hurts you in the long run be selfish and say no.

Many a time we fail to give the best selflessly because we don’t know how to do that to ourselves either. We don’t know what is best; because we don’t give that to ourselves either. Now; it’s by being selfish that you get to be genuinely selfless. a life well-lived is a life of service to others. We can only do that by taking care of ourselves first.

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