Every day the young ones look up to you. They copy what you do or even say. I know I’ve picked so much from my dad that it’s astonishing but hey, it was all good. You are a mirror to yourself and others as well. To build a better society we need to be cautious of how you treat yourself and others as well. We cant change the truth; it is what it is. How best can you be the best mirror for you while doing the same for others?
Validate yourself everyday
Be your number one fan. People think it’s so hard and what the fun in it if other people don’t validate you. Being validated by other people is good but too much is addictive and poisonous. You validate yourself to eliminate the need to be validated by other people. Be happy and satisfied with where you are while also doing better or trying to be better. That’s the beauty of life, it’s a journey. Every day you get a chance to validate yourself and reinvent yourself.
Negativity is everywhere, so why not look for positivity. Feeding off negativity is something that might be a bonding routine for you and your friends but very costly at the very end. For every negative there is a positive, find it. Take your time and find it. In a world so gloom, choose positivity, be that gasp of fresh air to you and others. Focusing on positivity trains your mind to do that and eventually all you can see is positivity.
Genuinely be happy for others
Those things you are envious about from your friends or people, think of how happy they make them. Be that person who doesn’t compare but knows they are on their journey and it’s nothing compared to others and so being happy for them doesn’t deduct anything from yours. Others having jobs and you not having one doesn’t mean you won`t find one eventually. Does it mean if they are laid off, you’ll be given the job? So what reason do you have not to be happy for them? Applaud them, push them to do better, and in return, they will do the same for you.
Surround yourself with people who get you
We do this for support and advice. You can’t be a recovering addict then surround yourself with those who drink every day. This is to not say that you shouldn’t help, help where you can but notice when people are dragging you down and leave. Maybe they’ll realize and what to do better. Validating each other’s problems doesn’t make you unique but you are slowly poisoning each other. Make it, and make them realize they can as well. Surround yourself with people who uplift you, not people who validate your reactive lifestyle.
Be mindful of our words
Words are powerful and they can destroy someone`s life in so many ways. You might think saying someone is fat will motivate them then it does the exact opposite. For every word or compliment you say to someone let it be constructive, let it build them, motivate them, and make them believe in themselves. If you can’t say anything nice then don’t say anything at all. What benefit could anyone possibly get from hurting someone with words? Ask yourself that every time to want to lash out and hurt someone.
Every day you decide to be a positive impact on your life and others as well. you are faced with that decision every time you decide to do something or even say something. All you to do is ask yourself if it builds or destroys you or others.